"If you don't like your situation, then do something about it."
These are words I live by. A long time ago I became empowered the first time I left a job that I didn't like. In hindsight, the feeling was quite liberating. No longer was I stuck going somewhere and doing something i grew to hate. Taking control of my destiny for the first time like that had a lasting impact on me and my approach to life in general today.
How should someone like myself then deal with a person who is in denial over how much they hate their job and has no ambition to advance or even leave? They say they don't hate their job but then all they ever do is bitch about people there. They refuse to even explore other options because they "don't want to compete with those that need it worse".
We all have complaints about work. We all complain to others about some aspect of work. There's nothing wrong with this and it's perfectly healthy.
I understand that insurance is a strong motivating factor for staying somewhere. There's also the fear of the unknown. It's clearly difficult to leave a job for another and expect a similar salary. Is not a pay cut worth the mental health? Does it make sense to stay somewhere that you have no hope for advancement and you voice how much you hate it? I'm not saying you have to have lofty goals and your entire career mapped out. How hard is it to want something just a little better in life?
In my eyes, i equate this as a personality that is destined for abusive relationships. Too and timid to take a stand. Denying their own words and justifying actions as "not all that bad" or "just venting". It's funny. When i hear the complaints about work and the subsequent denials of them, i keep thinking to myself "honestly officer, i just fell!"
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Just venting is not done on a regular basis. I've known numerous people that are like this. Know what I did? I told them I didn't want to hear it. Don't like your lot in life? Do something about it. Plain and simple. I have better ways to waste my time than listening to you bitch. As soon as I leave my place of work, I RARELY talk about it. If I do it's normally some funny quip. Other than that I try not to bore people with the details of my job, especially those that don't have a clue as to what I do. Sure there are the rare occasions that i vent just like any normal person. But to do so on a regular basis and in such a fashion that it defines who you are...
I used to bitch and moan about how unfair life was. Guess what? I finally set out to change it. After years of going nowhere and getting stepped on in the process, I grew a pair and set off on a different path. It's expected to be afraid of the unknown when changing jobs. Hell after my first week at my current job, my head was spinning and I thought I was in over my head. But I adapted and now I enjoy my job to a certain extent. If i didn't, I might consider leaving. It's true what you said. Leaving a job you don't like is a liberating experience.
It's as simple as the old adage: "Shit or get off the pot."
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